Thursday, April 14, 2011
Due to the fact that Kerri has chosen to try and eliminate David from Brian’s life, I too have no role, as a loving grandparent, in his life. I can’t help but wonder how you would feel if the situation were reversed and you were kept from contacting or seeing Brian.
It is apparent that Kerri is consumed with anger, vengeance, hatred and jealousy. What a sad way for a young woman to live her life. This is a path that she, as an adult, has chosen to take. Tragically, Brian has no choice in the matter, but she is dragging him down this path with her. Are you aware that she has now been in contempt of court four times? I can’t help but wonder what, in God’s name, can she be thinking to keep people who love and miss her son out of his life? Can she possibly think that this is in his best interest?
The young woman that David is now so blessed to have in his life is such a fine example of what a loving mother does for her child. God knows, she too could be filled with anger and hatred for her ex-husband. She has chosen, instead, to put her child’s welfare first and take the high road. Her daughter sees her father regularly, spends vacations with him and, when she can’t be with him, her mother very generously arranges a skype visit. The civil and cordial relationship she has with her ex-husband is what is best for her daughter, so she is mature enough to put her feelings aside. The fact that Kerri had her friends e-mail this young woman to try and convince her that David is a jerk is so sophomoric and immature.
It really is time to start putting Brian’s welfare first. He has the right to know that his father and grandmother love him with all their hearts and miss him terribly.
Tragically, I fear that irreparable harm has already been done to Brian due to Kerri’s maniacal control over him. In the past three years, Kerri has managed to keep him away from David for a total of over one year. Does she believe that Brian is her possession and she has sole ownership of him? I have put several provisions in place for Brian to someday learn how much I and David have loved and missed him. Sadly, he won’t learn this until he is older, if Kerri continues to prevent our contact with him. Even more sadly, he could very well come to hate his mother for the way events are unfolding. Believe me, I do not wish for this. I want nothing more for this precious child than to love both his parents and all of his grandparents. Is Kerri so insecure that she does not want anyone else to love her son or for him to love others? I sincerely hope not.
Any time spent with Brian would be greatly treasured. And rest assured, I have never and would never say anything negative to him about his mother. I know that Brian has heard many things said about his Dad (as he has relayed them to me, on the occasions I have been with him ) and that is truly pathetic. I wish everyone could act as adults and just treat each other with simple civility and kindness for the benefit of Brian. He is what this letter is about and I write it with sincerity, earnestness and deep love for both my son and my grandson. As parents and grandparents yourselves, I hope you can understand this