THE CONTENTS OF THIS COMMENTARY ARE THE AUTHOR'S OPINION. NO PART THEREOF SHOULD BE CONSTRUED AS FACTS PER SE OR AS LEGAL ADVICE. THE AUTHOR OF THIS COMMENTARY IS SIMPLY MAKING LAY-PERSON COMMENTS AND SUGGESTIONS. BEFORE ACTING, YOU SHOULD RESEARCH THESE MATTERS YOURSELF TO TEST THE VERACITY OF ANY STATEMENTS BELOW:
Grandparents have statutory rights to "reasonable visitation" with their grandchildren per NH RSA 461-A:13. If there is a pending matter, grandparents can file a "Motion to Intervene" to become parties to the litigation to assert their rights. This can be especially helpful if an alienated parent is prevented from seeing his/her child due to the "system." Getting the grandparents of the child, on the alienated parent's side could be a critical "inroad" to re-creating the relationship with the alienated parent. Your children need exposure to "your side" - SOMEHOW!
Interestingly enough, this happened in my case. I have been prevented from seeing my son for over three months now; with no statutory or other authoritative basis - not even a counselor suggested it - it was GAL Tracy Bernson (Dover , NH
I digress - the real point here is this: My parents were given grandparent visits one day per week with my son. They took some innocent home video one visit, wherein my son expressed his keen desire to see me. This debunked and destroyed Tracy Bernson's and my ex's entire argument that my son "is afraid of me." So, my ex-wife - unilaterally - stopped allowing my folks to see my son. They filed and were granted a "motion to intervene," and now they are parties to the case - asserting their rights to my son, their grandson. Visitation has not been restored yet because of the ineffectiveness of the overworked and understaffed Family Court system, but at least they are fighting for what is right, and doing so by getting involved in the process as parties to the case.
In this instance, my ex-wife, in her carefully architected plan to de couple and alienate my son from me, and from my entire family, now MUST keep my son from ANY environment where evidence can be produced that is contrary to her postulates. This includes my parents! Eventually, when visitation on some level is restored, all of the "experts" will be disproved, and that my friends, is the very time to attack their conduct, ethics, and compliance with the duties they have to our families. Attack their licenses. Attack their certifications. Use facts to assist in propagating a campaign to impact their reputation (be careful about appearing too emotional - you will lose credibility if you use opinion, foul language, or personal thoughts. Remember all of these "professionals" and "experts" are in a club of their own, and they stick by one another. Be very careful not to commit defamation)
Remember: most GAL's, like Tracy Bernson, are failures as lawyers in private practice, failures in private practice as therapists, or simply inexperienced young practitioners using the GAL system as their foray into the professional community.
I ask this question: Why would a successful attorney, billing at $250 or $300 per hour, making $400,000 per year, want to work as a lackee to the system as a GAL for $60 per hour? The answer is: They wouldn't - not even for altruistic reasons. Naturally successful people are altruistic WITH their success, NOT at the expense of their success!!! Most GAL's like Tracy Bernson can't make it on their own abilities, so they piggyback on the GAL certification that virtually *anyone* can obtain!
YOU MUST REALIZE that your GAL might LIKELY be one such individual - and they are the ones controlling and determining your family's fate.
Take notes, keep a log or journal. Keep specific dates and times. Research the authorities that govern their appointment. Compare their actual conduct to the standards of ethical practice that are require of them and file a thoughtful, copiously-detailed complaint with the NH GAL Ethics Board, The NH Bar Attorney Discipline Office for violations of the Professional Rules of Conduct, the NH Board of Mental Health Practice, National Association of Counsel for Children(they certify "child welfare law specialists"). Complain, in a very thorough and professional fashion to these organizations; it will help to keep these neglectful, abusive, incompetent guardians from injuring future wards and their families.
All you can do is fight the injustice!
Feel free to email me anytime!
fight@injust.us
I've done all of the above - filing complaints with the GAL Board, the Bar Association and the Judicial Conduct Committee. None of them are worth their weight in trash; they're all equally corrupt. The NH GAL Board is by far the most corrupt entity going, collecting a $100 fee for the filing of a complaint they'll never do a damned thing about, and will likely never even read. The Bar Association doesn't care about misconduct or ABUSE of a child (see my complaints about Cynthia P. Gilman of Manchester, NH).
ReplyDeleteWorse, the "courts of law" (a term supposed to be equated with honor non-existent in the family courts) are completely impotent to enforce their own orders. Even, and especially under the pretense of a GAL recommendation, the "court" refuses to enforce it's own orders. "Contempt" has become a meaninglessly flaccid term, honor be damned, when a judge will say terms that disobedience of a "court order" and that ABUSE of a child shouldn't mandate intervention.