My Ex-Wife’s Mobbing Behavior – One Of The Keys To Her Success With Alienating Our Children From Me

If you’re doing your research on Parental Alienation Syndrome (PAS), I would recommend you read about mobbing.  Mobbing is using a group of people to bully against one person.   With every group there is always a ringleader.  In my case it was my ex-wife.  My ex-wife has mobbing down to a science and she used others to bully me for years without my knowledge.  Evil people like my ex-wife will use unsuspecting people in their mobbing campaign to beat you up.  They manipulate others into doing their bullying. 

In the case of my ex-wife, she began to mob me with her family, my sister, her friends, my friends, our friends, my boss and other co-workers.  Every time she felt I was out of line, she tried to turn people against me.  She liked to put me on public trial regarding our marital problems by using friends and family as the jury.  It’s no wonder that after twelve years of marriage I finally had enough of her behavior.

Parental Alienation Condoned By Attorney Jaye L. Rancourt, GAL/Attorney Douglas A. Thornton, Marital Master David S. Forrest, and Judge John P. Arnold (Part 2)

(To Read Part 1 Click Here)

I think back to time when I would listen to Kenny Loggins song Return to Pooh Corner and proudly look upon my sleeping children.  The hard thing to get over is how Attorney’s like Jaye Rancourt, GAL’s like Doug Thornton, Marital Masters like David Forrest and Judges like John Arnold stole it all away from me by the roles they played in helping my ex-wife to alienate my children from me.  I have read from others that it’s like mourning for your children’s death but you know they are still very much alive.

These people are responsible for seeing that I will never get a chance to watch my children grow up.  They are the ones that played the biggest role in condoning my ex-wife’s parental alienation behavior by rewarding her. 

I have heard some justify parental alienation by saying that it might just be a mother protecting her children, just as these corrupt people I am sure have justified it in their own minds.  What are these people protecting the children from?  I never abused my kids.  I was always there for them.  I was often complimented by my ex wife’s family for being the great dad until the divorce when my ex declared an all out smear campaign.  Then I was portrayed as incompetent and selfish.  A man that thought of their own needs before they thought of their children’s needs.  This is utter nonsense.

Was I selfish when I decided to put my foot down and tell my ex that I was tired of her years of abuse and I didn’t want the children to keep on being in the middle?  Was I selfish for wanting to get away from the physical abuse my ex-wife inflicted upon me?  Was I selfish when I had enough of my ex calling my friends, my family, her family and my boss and telling them I had a “Chemical Imbalance.” 

Parental Alienation Is Like A Spider Web – It Begins In The Center With The Alienating Parent And Continues To Spiral Outward Into An Intricate Woven And Detailed Web – It’s Amazing Who Will Get Caught In It.

There is an old saying ''Oh what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive.''  This saying goes hand and hand with my experiences with my ex-wife and her Parental Alienation Campaign.  The story begins with my ex at the center weaving her web of Parental Alienation. 

This story is from my experiences.  I am not an expert on Parental Alienation.  I am a dad that has been affected by Parental Alienation.  I am telling this story so that if you are facing divorce, you can hopefully learn by my experiences or if you have gone through divorce with a similar experience, you can realize how complex the issue is. 

First let me say that in my opinion any woman who would fight to keep her children from their father (Unless there are good compelling reasons such as abuse, etc) is not thinking of her children but herself only.  The sad thing is that we live in a society that condones this type of behavior.  Compound this by living in a small town in NH the Spider Web will spin out of control. 

In my case, the web began to spin when we first started getting serious with our relationship.  I remember a camping trip that we were on with some other people.  My ex ran off into the woods and sat down in a remote area crying.  When I asked her what was wrong, she blamed me for not being sensitive to her needs.  Now in most relationships this issue comes up.  However people don’t run off into the woods and isolate themselves from everyone.  Looking back, my ex did this to punish me.  If my ex had been mature, she would have pulled me aside and spoke with me.  Not run off into the woods throwing a tantrum.  If you see this type of behavior, be aware. 

The web continued to expand.  Shortly after the marriage

Douglas A Thornton Listed On NH Guardian Ad Litem Board’s List – Listed As “Expired or Renewal Denied” – How the State Of NH Protects Those Working For The State That Have Enormous Power To Destroy Lives And Yet The State Refuses To Give The Public Access To Information About These People

Here is a list that was published by the Guardian Ad Litem Board in NH.  As you will note, Douglas Thornton is listed as “Expired or Renewal Denied.”  This document is available at the following link. http://www.nh.gov/gal/documents/BoardCertifiedGALs-Alpha.pdf

CHANGES IN GUARDIAN AD LITEM STATUS

Changes through December 8, 2010

Suspended:

• Lenora Boehm

• Marsha Lavallee Huntoon

Newly approved

• Lynn Aaby

• Arlene Agosto

• Tracy Bernson

• William Cleary

• Margo Cooper

• Tina Craig

• Anna Elbroch

• Kristen Finnegan

• Carleen Forrest

• Barbara Gardner

• Aprel Goddard

• Lucinda Hopkins

• Robin Partello

• Elizabeth Rodd

• Laura Vaillancourt

Expired or renewal denied:

• Michael Atkins

• Dianna Baker

• Lisa Bellanti

• Paul Bennett

• Floreen Keifer-Bishop

• Quentin Blaine

• Barry Bolduc

• George Bortnick

• David Braiterman

• Peter Brigham

• Susan Brown

• Peter Brunette

• Deborah Buxton

• Cindee Carter

• Mark Cavanaugh

• Karen Collman

• Clark Corson

• RoAnne Cronin

• Timothy Cunningham

• Gail Cyr

• Susan Denenberg

• Elaine Dolph

• Daniel Dwyer

• Edmunds Everett

• Michael Finamore

• John Fox

• Patricia Frim

• Christopher Garner

• Matthew Garthwait

• Jill Gaumont

• Kim Gaumont

• Michelle Gosselin-Limire

• Tammy Gosling

• Joan Gross

• Margaret Cunnane Hall

• Marianne Hannagan

• Jeremy Harmon

• Patrick Harrigan

• John Harwood

• Honey Hastings

• Tricia Hayes

• James Hurley

• David Kamen

• Kathy LaRocque

• Marcia Leighninger

• Thomas Mandra

• Jeanette Marino

• Steven Markiewicz

• Elizabeth Maynard

• Barbara McCracken

• Glenn McCracken

• Andrea McCusker

• Robert McKenney

• Norma Micheroni

• Fred Miller

• Kathy Needleman

• Deborah Shepherd

• Douglas Thornton

Someone contacted the GAL board for information and here is their response. 

1^st Request For Information From GAL Board

Hi:
I recently noticed that GAL Douglas Thornton is on a list of "Expired or renewal denied." as for changes through December 1st 2010.  How do I find out information about this?  I would like to know what information is available to me. 

Thanks

1^st Response To Request

Good Morning,

I am not sure what information you are requesting, so I am including the dates of any status changes for Mr. Thornton. I reviewed Mr. Thornton’s file and found that he was originally certified by the Guardian ad Litem Board on March 13, 2006.  His certification expired on March 13, 2009.  He did apply for Guardian ad Litem Certification again in the summer of 2010; however, the board denied his application on September 24, 2010.  He is not a board certified GAL, and has not been board certified since his original expiration date.   

If you are looking for something more specific please let me know and I can try to get that information for you if it is indeed public information.  The reasons for denial are not public information.   

Thank you,

Katherine

GAL Board Secretary

2^nd Request Asking For Information

Thank you for your speedy response.  You answered most of my questions.  Specifically, I am assisting a friend with some post divorce issues.  Doug Thornton was the GAL.  It would be helpful is we could find out why Mr. Thornton's application was denied as there could be some impact on the post divorce issues.  I am a little confused why that information would not be open to the public under the NH Right to Know law and if it is not subject to right to know, how could someone find out?  A petition to the court?  Subpoena?  Your assistance would be greatly appreciated. 

2^nd Response To Request

The reason for denial is exempt from right to know requests pursuant RSA 91-A:3 II(c), and cannot be disclosed.  If he had requested a hearing to challenge the board’s denial of his application, then the information would have become public, but he did not.  I am a secretary, and I am unaware of how you would force the release of exempt information, but I think it may be through the Supreme Court, but you may want to get some legal advice on that.

If you are under the assumption that the reason for denial stems from a complaint about Mr. Thornton as a GAL, I can inform you that all disciplinary decisions regarding GALs are posted to the board’s website under the complaints section.  I do not see that any disciplinary action was ever taken against Mr. Thornton.

If your friend wishes to file a complaint against Mr. Thornton, there is paperwork available on the Board’s website under the complaints section.  However, it should be noted that the board can only handle complaints against certified GALs, so if the time period during which the violations took place was after Mr. Thornton expired, then the complaint would need to be directed to the court, and she would need to contact them as to how to file a complaint.

Thank you

Katherine

GAL Board Secretary

As you can see, the secretary in quite polite in her response.  She notes that the reason for Thornton being denied his certification is not subject to the right to know laws.  Here is a person that has caused a great deal of destruction to two young boys and God knows who else but you can’t find out why his application was denied.  Do you see something wrong with this?  What is the GAL Board covering up?  Thornton created a lot of problems for my divorce, he was biased and negligent in the way he handled the case but I can’t find out why he was denied his certification. 

Someday my children will become adults.  They will someday realize that their father did everything he could do to be in their lives but had his rights taken away by a sick mother that breeds on Parent Alienation as well as her attorney Jaye Rancourt, a negligent GAL Douglas Thornton along with Master Forrest and Judge Arnold. 

Parental Alienation Condoned By Attorney Jaye L. Rancourt, GAL/Attorney Douglas A. Thornton, Marital Master David S. Forrest, and Judge John P. Arnold (Part 1)

I like to think back to a time when all was normal with my children.  As a dad working shift work, time with my boys was always precious.  I did everything I could do to be part of my kid’s lives.  I remember the birthday parties.  Funny, I was always the one running around at the parties playing with the kids.  I loved my children and they loved me.  That has changed after the divorce.

In my 12 years of marriage, I never contemplated divorce until I was at the end of my rope.  My vicious ex-wife began to play games with me a year before I ever contemplated divorce.  I remember the last straw to break the camels back which was a Sunday morning just before going to work.  I was getting dressed and preparing my lunch.  My ex-wife was sitting on the couch and looked at me just before I was heading out to work and stated to me, “You need to choose between your job and your family.”  I told her she needed to grow up.  She repeated her ultimatum.  I told her I will choose.  It will be my children, my job and she wouldn’t be in the picture. 

Games can be nasty.  Especially when dealing with someone that is a sick person.  I was working a police detail one evening.  I received a call from my ex-wife’s mother.  She told me that my sister had called her for advice and that my mother was quite ill (she was an LPN). Later, I received a call from my ex-wife just as I was getting ready to head home.  She was inquiring when I would be home.  I told her shortly.  She told me that she had been waiting up to discuss something with me.  She went on to tell me that my mother was sick.  I told her that I knew as her mother had called me earlier.  That set my ex off.  She told me that she wanted to be the one to tell me this.  I remember her calling her mother the next day and yelling at her for calling me and screaming at her mother telling her she had no business to call me about my mother. 

When I got home sometime after midnight, I went inside my house and I took off my gear and went upstairs.  I went into the kid’s bedroom to check on them and they were sound asleep.  I then went into the master bedroom.  My ex was not in bed.  I found this quite odd since I had spoken with her a short time earlier.  I went into the living room to see if my ex was there and had fallen asleep on the couch.  She was nowhere to be seen. 

I then noticed that the front door was ajar.  We never would leave this door open or unlocked.  I searched the house for her.  I looked outside, in vehicles, upstairs in the unfinished rooms, on the main floor, the basement.  I couldn’t find her anywhere.  I was ready to call dispatch and ask for State Police when I said to myself, let me check again and this time let me be a little more thorough. 

I started with the unfinished upstairs.  I looked in both unfinished rooms.  As I shinned my flashlight in the unfinished closet, I saw my ex curled up in a ball sleeping on the floor.  Feeling that she was intentionally doing this to make a statement (Which my ex told me that was the case at a later date), I went back downstairs and sat on the couch.  A short time later, she came downstairs and walked past me without saying a word.  She had a blanket.  She then went outside to her vehicle and proceeded to sleep in her vehicle for two hours.  I ended up having to sit up all night for fear of what she was going to do next.  I felt that I couldn’t trust her and did not feel safe around her. 

The following day my ex was quite nasty to me.  I asked her what she was acting this way.  She told me that it was because of the way I was treating her and she was making a statement.  I then had to listen to her yell at her mother on the phone about her calling me last night to tell me that my mother was sick.  Now mind you the following evening wasn’t any better.  I was exhausted.  My ex-wife had caused me to stay awake for almost two days straight.  I hit the bed and was out immediately.  A short time later, I awoken and am half asleep.  My ex was grabbing my crotch trying to arouse me.  I said to her, what are you doing?  I haven’t been to sleep in two days.  My ex became outraged and pulled my penis about as hard as she could.  It hurt so bad I jumped out of be and said to her, you’re sick.  I went upstairs to the unfinished room, found a mattress pad to lay on with some blankets and proceeded to get some sleep.  That was the last time I would sleep in the same bed with her.  I actually had to begin sleeping in the unfinished room to get away from my ex.  I had to barricade the door at night for fear of what she would do.  Subsequently I decided to file for divorce. 

It was around this time that I started to become aware of the other games being played by my ex.  My brother called me a few times out of the clear blue to see how I was doing. He finally told me that my ex had called him and was concerned about me.  To be exact, she told my brother I was acting weird and had a “Chemical Imbalance.”  My ex even called my boss and wanted to meet with him at his house.  She tried to pull the same thing on him about the chemical imbalance. 

As time went on, my ex began making accusations that I was having multiple affairs.  Due to the nature of my job, I worked days, nights, weekends, etc.  It was not uncommon to get called into work as I was on call 24/7.  Her paranoia seemed to fuel her sickness.  The thing is I could always account for my time.  I was always at home, work, or with my family. 

Have you ever been threatened by your ex and told that you will never see your kids again?  Well I have.  Several times my ex went so far as to deny me the right to be with my kids while we were married and living together.  She would leave the house and look right at me with an evil grin ad tell me I would never see my children again. 

I recall during marriage counseling, my ex told the counselor that she was going to move out of state and take the kids away from me so that I would never see them again.  The counselor had to her that she couldn’t do that since I had parental rights. 

One day I received a call from a friend of mine that lives two hours away.  We had known each other for 30 years.  He said to me he had been thinking about me and thought we should get together for dinner somewhere in the middle.  I made plans to meet him one night in Amherst NH at Longhorn.  My ex was fully aware of my plans as I had told her where I was going and who I was meeting.  As a matter of fact she thought it was a good idea for me to see my friend and so much that my sixth sense kicked in.  I knew it was a set up. 

I met with my friend at Longhorn.  We ordered dinner.  Right after we ordered, I said to my friend, “So what did she tell you?”  He asked me what I was talking about.  I told my friend I had known him for nearly thirty years and knew that he was a poor liar.  My friend then told me, my ex had called him and stated that she was concerned about me.  Here goes the same old chemical balance story again.  She called my friends, my family, her family and my boss.  When this didn’t work, she then started telling everyone I was having an affair. 

I went onto explain to my friend that my ex was having issues.  I told him that I couldn’t deal with her anymore and explained how she was truly out of control.  She was spying on me and going through my personal belongings and checking up on me wherever I went.  I told him how every time she called me and checked up on me I was always where I told her I was going to be. 

Halfway into dinner, my friend’s daughter called him on his cell phone.  She told my friend that the phone just rang and she noticed the number was my land based phone number so she didn’t answer it as she knew that my ex and me had been having problems (Amazing that this teenaged girl knew of these problems since I never discussed them with her or my friend which leaves only one way she could have know which was by my ex communicating with my friend). 

After my friend hung up with his daughter, his phone rang again.  It was my ex calling.  Now mind you, I carried two cells phones at this time.  One phone belonged to my employer and one phone was my personal phone.  My ex had both phone numbers.    Neither of these two phones was called in an attempt to reach me.  My friend answered his phone my ex stated that she was looking for me and didn’t know if he had seen me.  My friend said I was right here with him.  He handed me his phone so I could talk to my ex. 

My ex stated that she had something going on at work and she didn’t want to call and disturb me and that was why she called my friend.  However since I was with him she was all set.  After I hung up the phone, my friend looked at me with disbelief.  He could not believe what just happened in front of his eyes.  I remember telling my friend see what I mean.  I can’t go anywhere without her checking on me.  She is sick. 

Getting home was no better.  When I got home, my ex met me at the basement door.  She was acting weird.  I asked her why she felt compelled to always check up on me.  She said that she had been talking to a friend and his wife was out so she thought the two of us were together having an affair (Incidentally these false and persistent accusations caused this other couples marriage to break up).  I was upset with my ex as our marriage counselor made us both agree to stop talking with this other couple and all of our friends and family while we were in counseling when my ex accused me of having an affair with this other person in front of the counselor.  If you had asked me, I think it was the other way around.  All summer long while I was at work, my ex spent numerous hours stopping by my friend’s place of business while his wife was at work (He worked alone). 

Oh, the ironic thing.  Guess who gave my ex the idea indirectly that I was having an affair?  My friend’s wife did.  It seems my ex was talking with my friend’s wife.  She was expressing that we were having issues.  My ex went onto tell my friend’s wife that I received calls at all hours of the night, I was always late on getting out of work and I quite often had to go into work late at night.  I was a police officer and supervisor in a small town.  That was my job.  My time was always accounted for through dispatch and town records.  However, my friend’s wife said to my ex, what do you mean by this?  Are you implying he is having an affair? 

My ex used a lot of this information to her advantage during the divorce proceeding.  She knew my weakness was my children and Jaye Rancourt made this the big contention of the divorce.  Attorney Jaye Rancourt and GAL Doug Thornton then began the process of painting me out to be a terrible father that thought of himself first and his kids last. 

Doug Thornton put a lot of weight to what my ex and her friends had to say about me.  I was accused by one on my ex-wife’s friends of not participating in activities with my kids.  In specific, I use to go to cub scouts for my oldest son once a week after school.  I was seldom absent.  While there I worked with the kids and assisted the pack leader.  Once, my ex’s friend was attending a meeting with her son.  She was seldom there.  I received a phone call and had to step out in the hallway to take it.  She told Thornton that I was seldom at the meetings and that when I was I was always on the phone.  Maybe Thornton should have talked to the scout leader.  He would have found out that I was seldom absent and that it was rare for me to pardon myself from time with the pack and I would only do so when other pending responsibilities could not be ignored such as an important phone call from work.  I was so dedicated to my son attending cub scouts that I had to go there in my police uniform many times because I didn’t want to take the time to change as I didn’t want to be late.  Thornton put weight to these lies, Rancourt capitalized on these lies and Forrest was so stupefied that he couldn’t see himself through the trees (You know the Forest through the trees).  These people are truly evil. 

Another issue of contention capitalized by my ex was the Pinewood Derby.  My ex made a scene with me and was truly out of control.  She and Attorney Jaye Rancourt blamed me for being the one to make a scene.  GAL Doug Thornton went along with what they said and conveyed this to Master Forrest.  Master Forrest used this against me.  I had a written statement from the pack leader that my ex was the one out of control and I at all times acted appropriately.  Even when the pack leader testified that my ex was out of control Forrest refused to hear it.  Again, these people are truly evil.  If you are a man and you want to get a fair hearing on a divorce and custody, don’t do it in front of these people and if you do you may just want to bend over and you know what. 

And how about the joyful time of Christmas that comes each year?  I was scheduled to work Christmas day.  I managed to get someone to swap shifts with me.  My kids at the time were 8 and 4 years old.  I worked it out so that I worked overnight while my kids were asleep and I would be home prior to them waking up and be able to spend Christmas day with them.  Being a responsible dad, I told my kids that I had to work.  I would head to work after they went to bed and I would be home by the time they awoke.  I told them this so that they knew if they awoke in the night that my roommate would be there to take care of them.  For all practicable purposes I probably didn’t have to tell them but I was concerned that if they woke in the middle of the night and I wasn’t there they would be scared.  This worked great.  I got home an hour before the kids woke and had a great Christmas morning and I spend a great day with the kids.  Don’t you know that my ex complained to Doug Thornton who decided that I was selfish by not thinking of the kids and letting them be with their mother when I wasn’t around for Christmas Day.  Maybe Doug Thornton should have talked to some of my friends or family and found out the truth which was I spent Christmas day with my kids.  When I questioned Thornton about not speaking to my family and friends, his response was he doesn’t find it useful to speak to family members as he doesn’t give any weight to what they have to say. 

Do you think as a GAL Thornton should have spoken with the Cub Scout leader to see who was telling the truth and who was lying?  Do you think that Thornton should have questioned me and my roommate about Christmas instead of making the assumption that I wasn’t around and the kids should have spent Christmas day with their mother and by me denying them the day with their mother I wasn’t thinking of the kids?  Oh, did I mention that by the decree I had the kids for Christmas day. 

I could go on about these stories but this would be like writing War and Peace.  The important thing for anyone to understand is no matter how truthful you are.  No matter how kind you are.  No matter how honest you are.  Know matter how right you are, if you go in front of these people, you will not be believed and you will be penalized if you’re a man and a non-custodial parent.  Even when you provide physical evidence, you will not be believed.  Expect the worst.  Expect that if you have kids involved, their lives will be screwed up because of the methods of Parental Alienation allowed to be used by litigants.  Master David Forrest and Judge John Arnold refuse to deal with these types of issues and should be removed from the bench.  I think I would have been much better if I just walked away from my family instead of trying to be responsible and do the right thing.  I essentially was punished by Forrest and Arnold for doing the right thing. 

I fought to have 50/50 custody of my children.  Instead, David Forrest and John Arnold at the request of Jaye Rancourt gave me the right to see my kids every other weekend.  Oh, the kicker of this whole thing.  Rancourt and Forrest knew that I worked every Sunday and Rancourt made sure there was a clause in there that if I could not watch my kids for more then 4 hours during visitation, I had to return them to my ex so essentially on Sunday’s I would have had to wake my kids up by 5am so that I could drop them off to their mother and then pick them up at three in the afternoon to just drop them off a few hours later in the evening.  Essentially what Forrest and Arnold did was to allow me to only see my kids two days a month.  That’s 24 days a year.  How do you co-parent children with that type of schedule?  I did nothing to deserve being treated this way. 

I was looking for 50/50 custody of the children.  I wanted to have custody exchanges occur on Friday evenings either at the end of school or the end of the work day when the kids got out of childcare so that myself and my ex would have no contact with each other.  Instead, Forrest and Arnold signed off on a plan that would have me and my ex having contact with each other constantly.  When I had parenting time with my children that was near 50/50, the alienation was somewhat tolerable.  I was able to work with my kids and be there for them and counteract everything there mother was doing to warp their young impressionable minds.  It’s not easy.  You have to be patient with the kids and remember it’s not their fault. 

Now, I have been reduced to being a father that is only able to call his kids once a week (I will elaborate on the circumstances of this in a future blog).  When I speak with my kids they are hostile to me.  My oldest son who is 11 years old is very hostile to me.  He continually tells me how he doesn’t love me.  He tells me that I did something wrong.  When I ask him what I did, he can’t tell me.  My 7 year old is slightly less hostile towards me although he listens to his brother and has frequent outburst with me also.  Parental Alienation is a terrible thing.  As long as we have unethical Judges like John P. Arnold, Marital Masters like David S. Forrest, Attorneys like Jaye L. Rancourt and Guardian Ad Litems like Douglas A. Thornton, this problem will continue to fester. 

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An Example On How Attorney Douglas A Thornton of Surry NH Unethically Runs His Law Practice – He Prides Himself On Being A Guardian Ad Litem That Is Smarter Than An Eight Year Old!

I recall speaking with Attorney Douglas A. Thornton of Surry NH, during my divorce.  He was the court appointed Guardian Ad Litem.  I repeatedly told him that my ex-wife was doing everything in her power to alienate the children from me.  I explained how she was making things up and that she was using the kids against me.  Thornton doesn’t believe in Parent Alienation. 

Thornton I remember told me that he was smarter than an eight year old (my oldest son’s age) and knew how to question him to get his answers.  Maybe Doug Thornton can go on the show “Are You Smarter Than a Fifth Grader.”  It would be truly amusing. 

Doug Thornton questioned my sons alright.  He played right into my ex-wife’s warped mind and got all the wrong answers.  As I posted in a previous article, my ex-wife, the one who in my “opinion” has multiple personality disorders.  Thornton was told by my attorney that there were counseling records obtained in discovery from my ex-wife and in our opinions, she was diagnosed with multiple personality disorders and was refusing to be treated.  I remember Thornton’s response all too well.  He said that the records came too late for him to consider them for his findings and he also didn’t have the expertise to interpret them.  Shame on Doug Thornton!  It was his job as GAL to look into the counseling records.  His actions aided my ex-wife in alienating the children from me.  He is incompetent as a GAL and an attorney and should be disbarred. 

I remember listening to Doug Thornton in court speaking to one of the court officers and making a joke of his job.  He said that he had a good routine.  As a GAL he was paid by divorcing parties and as a bankruptcy attorney, he would get paid by these same people at a later time when they had to file bankruptcy.  Does this sound unethical? 

Doug Thornton approached me in court after this comment and asked about the remainder of my bill that I owed him.  I owed him a small amount of money.  I explained I was doing my best but had been experiencing extreme financial hardship.  I had noticed in documents that my ex-wife had paid Thornton very little and she owed him a considerable amount of money.  When I asked him if he would work with me he became irate and threatened to bring me to court and to have me found in contempt of court.  I stated to him that my ex-wife according to his records had hardly paid him and he said that was none of my business. 

I realized some months after my divorce was finalized and I had paid Thornton’s bill that I had no records to show that my debt was paid.  I contacted Thornton and asked him for a final statement.  He became irate with me. 

Below is the first and second email I sent him politely asking for a statement.  Read the emails from the bottom up to follow the conversation.   All correspondence has my name blacked out to protect my minor children.  Read from the bottom to the top to follow the conversation. 

Thornton responds after the second request and states he is busy and is avoids the request.  I then send him another email telling him that I find it ridiculous that he billed over $5,000 for his services and can’t understand why I can’t get a statement.  Thornton then accuses me of throwing my weight around as a police officer.  I have to email him back and tell him I am no longer working as a police officer.  Read the email below and start from the bottom and read to the top. 

So after this bullying email from Doug Thornton, he writes me a letter and sends it to me in PDF format.  He asks me to give this to my current attorney.  I find the third and fourth paragraph disturbing. 

In the third paragraph, Thornton justifies not giving me a final statement since in the past I questioned why he was singling me out and telling me he was going to file court action against me for owing a few hundred dollars when my ex-wife owed him thousands of dollars.  Thornton states that he makes no determination whether it is profitable to pursue fees and he knows of no law that requires him to spend time to collect on a bad debt.  I know I paid Thornton in full.  What does he mean by this?  It appears to me that he may have overbilled me and is letting my ex-wife get away without paying.  Do you see a problem with this.  A GAL that would do this is UNETHICAL. 

In the fourth paragraph, Thornton defends himself as I had stated to him that I had counsel (Which my counsel was dealing with some post divorce issues and wanted me to get up to date records).  I never told him what the counsel was for.  He made an assumption it was to file a lawsuit against him.  Why would Thornton think this way?  From my experiences it’s because he did something wrong.  See the letter below.

So now that you have the facts, do you think this attorney is unethical?  Do you think he has something to hide?  You definitely do not want to give this guy any business.  He will do to you what he did to me.  I feel like he robbed me blind.  As a GAL My opinion is that he is incompetent.  I have had specialized training on questioning children.  When I asked Thornton on the witness stand if he had any training on forensic questioning of children he said no.  I believe it.  So what do you think?  Is Douglas A Thornton smarter than an eight year old?

Unethical NH Attorney’s, Guardian Ad Litem’s, Judges and Marital Masters Wanted!

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1. Their full name.
2. Their title.
3. Where they are from.
4. Why you believe they are unethical. 

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What Can You Do To Deal With Unethical Attorney’s, GAL’s Judges and Marital Masters?

I use to be a full time police officer.  During my years of experiences in law enforcement, I went up against a lot of attorneys.  When I was police prosecutor I dealt with a lot of attorneys.  Some attorneys were very ethical and good and others not so ethical.  I never took it personal when I lost a case to an attorney doing their job and being ethical and proper.  What I always had an issue with is unethical attorneys that will lie and cheat.

Now that you have some background let me begin by telling you the most important thing you can do to deal with unethical attorneys like Jaye Rancourt of Manchester, NH, and Doug Thornton of Surry, NH as well as Marital Masters like David Forrest and Judges like John P. Arnold is to hold them accountable by getting your information out there in the public.  I always liked to use the following scenario with subordinate officers.  I would hold my pen up and tell my subordinates, “See this.”  I would then point to my firearm and say to them that this pen in my hand has more power then the firearm I was carrying.  Here is my point.

1. Blog about these people.  You can search for blogs and other forums by doing a Google Search.  You can create your own blog for free.  The Courthouse Forum is a good place to post information about Judges and Marital Masters (http://www.courthouseforum.com/).  Another recent blog I found was NH Judges Are Sodomites at http://nhjudgesaresodomites.blogspot.com/.  Let others know how and why these people are problematic.  Take away their business by making others want to not do business with them.  With the internet you can reach out to a lot of people.  What is one of the first things I do when I want to know about a person or company that I am thinking of doing business with?  I Google their name to see what information is available.  I decide to do business with them or not to do business with them based on my research.  Just make sure you are giving accurate information about these people and be professional.  Don’t make up false information about these people.  Just stick to the record which usually speaks for itself and gives credibility to what you have to say. 

2. File complaints against these people through the appropriate agencies.  In NH, you can file complaints with numerous agencies. 
1. For judges and marital masters you can file a complaint with the Judicial Conduct Committee.  Information is available at the following link: http://www.courts.state.nh.us/committees/judconductcomm/index.htm
2. For attorneys, you can file a complaint with the Judicial Conduct Committee.  Information is available at the following link: http://www.courts.state.nh.us/committees/attydiscip/
3. If the attorney is providing a service to you the Better Business Bureau is another avenue.  I am going to try this with the GAL since he provided me a service and there were lots of issues while doing so (This will be outlined in another post in the near future).
4. For GAL’s you can file a complaint with the Guardian Ad Litem Board in NH at http://www.nh.gov/gal/complaints.htm.  The real joke about this is that it cost to file a complaint.  This is a direct quote from the website, “The complaint filing fee in the form of a valid check or money order made out to “The State of New Hampshire: GAL Board.” The fee is $100.”  Most people that have been screwed by incompetent GAL’s can’t afford the money to file the complaint which is true in my case.  Amazing, the government is charging for services that should be covered by our taxes.  Is there a problem here?  Can you say discrimination? 

3. Contact the media and see if they will interview you or write an opinion letter to the editor.  I recently saw two articles in the Keene Sentinel where one person did just this.  If you go to his website NH Judges Are Sodomites at the following link you can read them at http://nhjudgesaresodomites.blogspot.com/2010/10/cheshire-superior-court-holding.html and http://nhjudgesaresodomites.blogspot.com/2010/10/cheshire-superior-court-rapes-divorce.html

4. Contact your state politicians and tell them that their state is screwed up and they need to work towards fixing it.  I’m not hopeful that they will listen but it’s a great way to vent. 

These are just some of the things you can do.  The important thing is to get your information out in the public.  If anyone has more suggestion please by all means post them.  If you have any helpful links please email them to me and I will post them. 

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New Hampshire’s Child Impact Seminar – What a joke

When I finally decided to get divorced from my wife and finally had the courage to go through with the court filing, I was told by my attorney that by NH state law (RSA 458-D) myself and my soon to be ex-wife had to take the Child Impact Seminar since we were parents of minor children.  There we would learn about the effects of divorce on children and what to do and what not to do. 

This seminar is a joke.  First it is a waste of money.  Someone is getting rich and benefiting from these seminars.  It sure is not our children.  The seminar assumes two things in my opinion.  First is that you are both parents without parenting skills and second that you are both reasonable people.  Let’s get real.  If both parents were reasonable people, this seminar would not be needed and most likely the two parents would not be getting divorced.

Every tactic that was discussed about parent alienation was used by my ex-wife in one way or another.  You might say that this course was a training seminar for learning how to alienate your children from the other parent.  Good job State of New Hampshire.  Maybe you can set up a parent alienation camp right next door to the al-Qaida camp for terrorist.  What is the major difference?  In my opinion, attorneys like Jaye Rancourt, Guardian Ad-Litem’s like Doug Thornton, and Marital Master’s like David Forrest support this type of behavior. 

How do we stop these people?  If I had all the answers, I wouldn’t be blogging.  I feel that we need to revamp our family courts and have a process which eliminates people that support parent alienation.  People like Jaye Rancourt, Doug Thornton and David Forrest need to be on the unemployment line.  Please support me by blogging about these and other people that need a rude awakening.  Let’s show the public what these people are really like.  If you have a story about these people or other supporters of parent alienation that you would like published, please email me.  If you have some helpful guidance for myself and others, please post a response or feel free to drop me an email at nh.unethical.attorney@gmail.com. 

Cheshire County Superior Court in New Hampshire – What a disaster for anyone involved with this court for Domestic situations – Why is this Court so screwed up?

I have had such negative experiences with this court including Judge John P. Arnold Who is responsible for running this court and Marital Master David Forrest.

I call up the Marital Department the other day.  I asked what’s going on with the motion that I filed.  I’m told that the Judge approved it but the person I’m speaking with can’t elaborate on just what that means.  They then tell me that my ex-wife’s motion was approved and she is now being awarded all of my equity from the sale of the marital home (The original decree awarded me a 45% portion).  The Judge ruled on her motion.  I ask if he ruled on my response to her motion which was an objection.  I’m told that there are a few other motions that are in the file that should have been ruled on and were not(and in a non committed manner was basically told that the court screwed up).  Apparently my other two motions I submitted were just placed aside somewhere and never looked at. 

I then asked when was my ex-wife’s motion was ruled on and why do I not have it.  I’m told that the motion was ruled on September 2^nd and was sent to me by the court on September 10^th and I should have it by now (Today meaning September 14^th).  Now I checked my mail yesterday and there was nothing there.  I then check my mail in the late afternoon of the 14^th.  Low and behold the motion is there.  The envelope is postmarked September 10^th.  It took eight days for the court to send me a ruling that was signed on the 2^nd.  It took another 4 days for me to get it for a total of 14 days.  The court was responsible for holding this document a minimum of eight days before sending it.  What’s up with this?  You have ten days to respond to something that takes 14 days for the court to get to you. 

I then call the Marital Department again the next day on September 15^th to find out if I have to be in court in the beginning of October as the motion I originally filed and had now withdrawn which was the reason for the court action being initiated.  I’m told by the person handling this matter that she was gone for two days and has a stack of stuff to get through and that she would try to get to mine by tomorrow and I was welcome to call back tomorrow to see if she processed the file.  I had explained that I was eight hundred miles away and traveling to NH for something ridiculous would cause a great deal of burden on me. 

What is wrong with this court?  What is wrong with Judge Arnold?  He is supposed to be running his court.  It would appear that he is not doing too good of a job.  If simple tasks can not be performed in an efficient manner what does this mean when we go in front of the court with issues on our children?  My opinion is that the court doesn’t want to deal with our children and that is why issues like parent alienation exist.  Do you think that the court has our children’s best interest at hand?  From my experiences I would say no. 

I plan on filing a complaint with the judicial system.