Supreme Court Rules Against Judge John P. Arnold’s Decision To Sentence Man Twice For The Same Crime

Read the section of the article highlighted in yellow.  How is it that a NH Judge doesn’t know the law on Double Jeopardy and that it takes a trip to the Supreme Court to bring this out?  Any Part Time Police Officer in the State of NH is taught that you can’t charge and convict someone twice for the same crime.  Is this another example of Judge Arnold’s incompetence?  With decisions like this, what does it mean for people going through family court in front of this Judge?  What does it mean when this Judge signs off on Master David Forrest’s decisions? 

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Judge keeps same sentence

Former teacher argued for more probation, less jail time

By Casey Farrar
Sentinel Staff

Published:

Thursday, January 6, 2011 12:17 PM EST

Despite winning an appeal from the state’s highest court last year, a former Marlborough School teacher will still serve six months in jail on a child pornography conviction.

Bryan T. Farr, 35, was in Cheshire County Superior Court Wednesday for a re-sentencing.

In early 2009, Farr pleaded guilty to possessing child pornography and delivering child pornography, both felonies.

On the conviction for delivering child pornography, Farr was sentenced to a year at the Cheshire County jail with six months suspended for three years.

He received a suspended prison sentence of three to six years, with 10 years of probation for his conviction on possession of child pornography.

But following a N.H. Supreme Court decision in October that ruled Farr could not be charged with both counts because they were for the same crime, prosecutors and Farr’s attorney agreed that the possession charge and its prison sentence would be dropped.
 

Manchester's Union Leader Runs Article About Marital Master David Forrest - Supreme Court Decision An Example Of His Bias Against Men

E-mails fall short for fault-based divorce
By NANCY WEST
New Hampshire Sunday News (Union Leader) Sunday, Mar. 22, 2009

If you're seeking a fault-based divorce in New Hampshire, you'd better have more than sexually suggestive e-mails and hurt feelings on which to base your case.

That's the message the state Supreme Court sent in a March 5 ruling that set a standard for finding one spouse at fault. The ruling may affect future divorces involving a claim that one spouse caused what state law describes as "serious injury to health or endangered reason" to the other, one of nine grounds for fault-based divorce in New Hampshire.

"The decision raised the bar. It's got to be serious injury, not just hurt feelings," said Nashua attorney William Aivalikles, who represented Daniel R. Guy's appeal of the divorce filed by his wife, Joni Guy.

Joni Guy claimed sexually suggestive e-mails Mr. Guy exchanged with a former girlfriend caused Mrs. Guy to be "angry, upset and distraught," according to court documents.

Senior Associate Justice Linda S. Dalianis, citing previous cases, said Mrs. Guy's claim was based on an 1840 law that allowed divorce when the claim didn't meet the standard for legal cruelty but the conduct "might make life intolerable and death welcome."

Being "angry, upset and distraught" isn't enough to meet that standard, Dalianis wrote, citing similar past cases that involved constant drunken abuse by domineering husbands, including a threat of murder. In each of those cases, the behavior caused some effect to the "innocent" party, such as becoming highly nervous, losing weight or undergoing counseling, Dalianis wrote.

"This kind of effect upon (Mrs. Guy's) physical and mental health is insufficient, as a matter of law, to sustain a divorce. ... In cases involving a divorce upon these grounds, the effect upon the 'innocent' spouse has been much more severe than mere anger and upset and the conduct in which the 'guilty' spouse engaged was more brutal than merely e-mailing his former girlfriend," Dalianis wrote in the unanimous decision.

Few fault-based divorces
Only about 1.3 percent of all New Hampshire divorces last year were completed as fault-based, according to the state Division of Vital Records. There were 4,913 divorces last year, and 4,847 of them were no-fault divorces based on irreconcilable differences.

In 2007, the most recent year for which the National Center for Health Statistics has divorce figures, New Hampshire's divorce rate was 3.8 per 1,000 of the state's total population. That's about the same as the national average, 3.6 per 1,000, although not all states report, according to the NCHS.

Experts estimate between 5 and 10 percent of divorces are filed as fault-based, but fewer than 2 percent are granted, according to the state Division of Vital Records.

Before no-fault divorce became part of New Hampshire law in 1971, a finding of fault was required to dissolve a marriage here, Aivalikles said.

Property settlement
In fault-based divorces, marital assets can be divided to favor the "innocent" party, Aivalikles said.

In the Guy divorce, the original property settlement, which was partially based on Mr. Guy's fault, was vacated in the Supreme Court's ruling.

Mr. Guy is expected to get an additional $56,000 as a result, Aivalikles said.

David Forrest, the marital master who heard the divorce, had recommended the fault-based grounds and the recommendation was approved by Judge William Groff.

The trial court dismissed Mrs. Guy's 2007 fault claims of habitual drunkenness and adultery against her husband of 18 years.

"It's safe to say my wife believed a lot of things that turned out to be untrue," said Mr. Guy, who added that he neither has a drinking problem nor committed adultery.

The ruling will likely mean Daniel Guy, a disc jockey and broadcast engineer, gets to keep at least half of his $112,000 inheritance, which was an issue in the settlement, he said.

"(Justice Dalianis) took more of a common-sense approach to my case. Finding fault was just a stretch," Mr. Guy said.

Joni Guy couldn't be reached for comment, and her attorney, Francis Holland of Nashua, didn't return phone calls to the New Hampshire Sunday News.

Alternatives to litigation
Wilton lawyer Honey Hastings said she changed her practice four years ago after a troubling case involving sexually graphic testimony.

Hastings, who wrote "The New Hampshire Divorce Handbook," said, "I don't litigate anymore. I felt it was enabling people to treat each other badly and hurt children."

She offers services to families, including mediation and collaborative practice, also called "no-court divorce."

Attorney Amy Wolfson of Nashua said fault-based divorces might lead to unequal division of assets, alimony and increased alimony, and may affect parenting rights and responsibilities.

Depending on how outrageous the fault, Wolfson said, the asset split could be 55-45, 60-40 or whatever the judge decides. In one of her cases, she said, her client walked away with 90 percent of the marital assets, though she said such cases are "extraordinary."

Mediation isn't always the best option in divorce cases, Wolfson said.

"Mediation works well when both parties are of equal bargaining power," she said. "When you have power disparity in the marriage, it doesn't work well."

Randy Kessler, secretary of the Family Law Section of the American Bar Association, said New Hampshire is in the mainstream, as about 25 states have both fault and no-fault divorces. Seventeen states have no-fault only, and eight states have fault-based divorces only, he said.

Even if fault isn't alleged in a divorce suit, Kessler said, fault may be found and used as leverage in reaching a favorable settlement for the injured party. Fault also can be relevant in deciding settlements and child-custody arrangements, he said.

End of Article

Let’s not forget that Marital Master David S. Forrest can’t sign off on divorce decisions without a Judge reviewing his decisions and also signing off on them.  Judge John P. Arnold and Judge Brian Tucker signed off on Forrest’s decisions in my divorce case.  These Judges in my opinion are just as guilty for the bad rulings that Forrest continually makes since it is their job to supervise Forrest. 

My ex-wife brought three different fault grounds against me in my divorce.  I brought forth one petition on irreconcilable differences.  Her three charges against me in her cross petition:

1.      Adultery

2.      When either party has so treated the other as seriously to injure health or endanger reason.

3.      Irreconcilable differences

Forest being the bigot he is used emails against me too but here is the real killer.  The adultery I was being accused of was after the fact.  A few weeks after being thrown out of my house, I moved into a four bedroom house with someone of the opposite sex so that I could share expenses and because plainly speaking, I was tired of sleeping in my vehicle and on peoples couches.   Forrest used this against me to support my ex’s theory that I committed adultery (after the fact) and therefore she had no way to reconcile her marriage.  Funny, I thought the marriage was over several months earlier when my ex told me to choose between my job and my family and shortly after I filed for divorce. 

Originally I was supposed to be moving in with two female roommates.  We would each have a bedroom and my kids would have their own bedroom.  It’s a good thing the third woman backed out at the last minute due to her not being able to get out of her existing lease.  God only know what Forrest would have given my ex if I was living with two women at the time of my divorce and sharing a house and expenses.  Forrest incidentally decided that there was no proof of me damaging my ex’s health and reason (I’m sure that anyone could see that her health and reason had been damaged a long time before I knew her).  

Here is how getting thrown out of my house by Forrest transpired.  I got a temporary order of protection against my ex-wife for her assaulting me one night.  My ex mind you was just as big as me and her job was very physical so lets just she was no petite flower.  This was one of the many times that my ex became physical to me.  At the hearing, Forrest dismissed my petition.  A few days later, he threw me out of my house which was the day before Thanksgiving.  I was notified by my attorney that I had to vacate the house immediately.  My ex had friends and family in the area that she could stay with.  I was an outsider.  I had no friends able to take me in and all of my family was two hours away.  I also have a very serious food allergy that I have to contend with which makes it difficult to stay at other peoples houses.  If you ask me, this prejudiced Marital Master that hates men had to find that I did something wrong so that he could justify throwing me out of the house and giving my ex an unequal distribution which included 98% of my childhood possessions, a lot of my clothes, some tools that belonged to my deceased father and a couple pieces of furniture that belonged to my soon to be deceased mother.  One piece of furniture in particular was an antique knick knack shelf that was given to my parents as a wedding gift.  My ex told Forrest that my mother purchased it for her at a yard sale for $20.    

I would love to see people in that State of NH that have so much power like Marital Masters and Judges have to go through counseling as a prerequisite to being appointed and to have a stipulation that the public gets to look at the findings.  Forrest would probably be diagnosed with multiple personality disorders himself.  People like Forrest can not handle power nor should they ever be allowed to be in a position of power. 

Here is an example of the types of frivolous Emails that were used.  Attorney Jaye Rancourt brings up to David Forrest that she found some emails where I stress desire to spend the night with another female.  Rancourt provided the email to Forrest.  I point out to Forrest that the email stated that I was looking forward to spending an evening with this female, watching a “Redsox and Yankee Baseball Game” the following year as this email conversation happened at the very end of baseball season.  This also happened after I signed divorce paperwork and was separated from my ex.  It’s so pathetic that Forrest cites this email in his written decision of fault in my divorce. 

The real sad thing about this email evidence is that I should have appealed this decision.  I didn’t because I was just glad to be away from my sick and deranged ex-wife’s abuse.  I was glad it was over.  I had no money (My divorce broke me at over $50k), no attorney and was just emotionally beat up.  About a month after my divorce, the above article came out.  Had this decision happened a few months earlier, the outcome of my divorce I am sure would have been different and if not, I would have personally gone to the Supreme Court and fought this bigot’s decision on my own.

The State of NH is so pathetic.  Several months after my divorce, I involuntarily became unemployed.  I had no money.  As the saying goes, I didn’t have a pot to piss in.  However because I had the window to throw it out of (I was living with someone who was paying the rent), the State of NH told me that I didn’t qualify for legal assistance to help me with my continuing post divorce frivolous nonsense that Attorney Jaye Rancourt and my ex kept on throwing at me.  I didn’t have any money because I spent it all on my divorce, my credit was tapped out, I sold off what little bit of personal property that I had just so I could pay my child support. My newest vehicle is a 1995 which every time I drive down the road with it and hit a pothole, rust falls off. You get the picture.  I’m not living an elaborate life. 

If you go through a divorce in NH plan for the worst, especially when you are a man and the noncustodial parent.  The State of NH is biased against men to start with.  I believe that men and women should have equal rights but why is it that when there is a divorce with children involved, you quite often see the woman fighting for full custody of the children and trying to deny the man access to his children?  Where is the equality here?  I can’t speak for everyone but in my case it was all about money.  My ex told me and numerous people that she was going to ruin me and take all of money and property.  However, it didn’t ruin me.  It made me a stronger person. 

Marital Masters and Judges will continue to be biased against men as long as the system remains old and archaic.  If you are a man in a contested divorce, expect to lose custody of your kids to a sick spouse, expect to have all of your values as a man deflated, expect to not be listened to when you tell the truth, and expect that in the end you will be bankrupt.  I’m telling you this so that you can plan ahead.  I wish knew what I know now and that I had time to plan ahead so I could stash money away.  That wasn’t my case.  My ex stopped contributing to the household a few months before I was thrown out of the house so I had to cover all expenses on my own.   Then when I got thrown out of the house, Forrest orders me to pay the mortgage in lieu of child support which was more then $400 a month above the NH child support guidelines and then holds it against me when I can’t afford to keep up with payments after many months of this nonsense.      

Recently, someone pointed out to me that there is a reason that NH Judges and Marital Masters order child support to be paid through the Department of Health and Human Services.  When the State acts like a collection agency for child support, the Federal Government pays the State money to do this.  The State of NH likes to have an income at the expense of the Federal Government and it is a major source of how the State of NH is funded.   What Forrest, Tucker, and Arnold as well as all the other Marital Masters and Judges are doing is just like in the old days when police departments wrote tickets to fund themselves.  A cop would write a ticket.  The money would go to the cop’s agency thus giving a great incentive for cops to write lots of tickets.  Even when people didn’t do anything wrong cops would write tickets just for the money.  It’s called corruption and in NH we have a lot of Marital Masters like Forrest and Judges like Tucker and Arnold that foster corruption.  Let’s work together to get these people removed and lets get the laws changed. 

I have been made aware of some house bills that are going to be proposed to the NH House this coming year that will help deal with some of these issues of bias.  I will try to post them once I get more information. 

Family Court In NH Is A Joke – Marital Master David Forrest Is The Ringmaster Of A Three Ring Circus

In Master Forest’s Three Ring Circus first comes the bickering, his deciphering and then men’s suffering. 

In looking back at my divorce file I noted a lot of things that were interesting.  My Alienated children can someday look back at what Forrest did to them and thank Forrest for devaluing their father and empowering their mother, an Alienating parent who thinks of her needs over her children’s needs.  I have records in a safe place and someday when my kids are older, I will let them look through the records so that they can learn the real truth and not the lies that their mother has filled their minds with. 

First of all Forrest made a lot of decisions on hearsay and testimony with no evidence presented.  Keep in mind that in a divorce, the burden of proof is the preponderance of evidence.  Not proof beyond the reason of doubt.  What does this translate into?  Whoever has the better story and who ever is more believable wins.  The burden of preponderance of evidence gives people like Forrest too much leeway and too much power.  They can totally ruin a person if they see fit to.  For the common person you don’t have the resources to fight it.  It is so costly you will end up bankrupt before your divorce is done and plan on a two year fight.  This is the atmosphere that Forrest encourages.  He like conflict.  I think he feels empowered by it. 

An example of Forrest poor judgment is, my ex told Forrest that she paid for my $10k college loan and told Forrest that I didn’t work much.  He liked her story.  She provided no physical evidence.  Just her testimony.  Forrest in his decision stated he believed what my ex-wife had said. He took her word over mine.  Why? He is a biased man hating pig.   I told Forrest when I testified that I have records that prove my ex was lying. 

I have records from the government showing that I paid off most of my loans prior to our marriage and the government paid off most of the rest when Bill Clinton signed a law reimbursing police officers on their student loans for service as a full time cop.  I brought this up to Forrest at the hearing but he decided that I was lying and took my ex wife’s testimony as gospel.  Call me a liar now Forrest.  I have your written decision and I have the records in my possession and can prove what I say is true. 

I also have my statements from SSN. When I was married, I made more money then my ex did.  How is that possible for a low life blood sucking leach that Forrest portrayed me out to be?  In his decision he portrays me out to be a man whore that worked part time and was unemployed most of the time when in fact I worked long hours with lots of overtime to support my ex wife’s spending habits.  Oh that’s right, my ex told him I was a deadbeat husband and again he believed her. 

When I questioned my ex in court, I caught her in several lies.  She testified that she never called State Police on me.  I provided Forrest a State Police Report where my ex called and spoke with a Trooper inquiring how she could legally get me out of the house.  The Trooper asked if I was abusive to her or the kids in which she stated no that I was not.  The trooper told her there was nothing he could do for her.  My ex’s response was that was what her attorney told her (This was her second attorney and not Jaye Rancourt). 

I had to deal with this kind of crap and maintain my job as a cop at the same time.  Forrest should have given me a medal for being able to deal with my while maintaining my job.  My ex totally denied that it was her who called this Trooper and spoke with him.  My ex in my opinion is sick but let me tell you, she knew what she was doing.  Her moves were calculated. 

If you are going through a divorce, learn about personality disorders.  Many people have them.  If you can learn about personality disorders, it may help with your situation if you can understand what you’re dealing with. 

Just remember, a system that allows a person like Forrest to make decisions on the preponderance of evidence is bound to fail.  People like Forrest abuse their power.  If you have a contested divorce in front of Forrest and you are a man, I would recommend that you ask him to recuse himself from the case due to his being biased.  Forrest does not have the ability to be fair to men.  I have had numerous people contact me because of this blog and they tell me their stories of how Forrest abused them and condoned giving full custody of their children to the alienating parent.  I hope that my stories about Forrest unethical behavior will help others to deal with their divorce and custody issues.  Anyone wanting to contact me with their stories or for assistance can be assured that I will keep there identity anonymous. 

Douglas A Thornton Listed On NH Guardian Ad Litem Board’s List – Listed As “Expired or Renewal Denied” – How the State Of NH Protects Those Working For The State That Have Enormous Power To Destroy Lives And Yet The State Refuses To Give The Public Access To Information About These People

Here is a list that was published by the Guardian Ad Litem Board in NH.  As you will note, Douglas Thornton is listed as “Expired or Renewal Denied.”  This document is available at the following link. http://www.nh.gov/gal/documents/BoardCertifiedGALs-Alpha.pdf

CHANGES IN GUARDIAN AD LITEM STATUS

Changes through December 8, 2010

Suspended:

• Lenora Boehm

• Marsha Lavallee Huntoon

Newly approved

• Lynn Aaby

• Arlene Agosto

• Tracy Bernson

• William Cleary

• Margo Cooper

• Tina Craig

• Anna Elbroch

• Kristen Finnegan

• Carleen Forrest

• Barbara Gardner

• Aprel Goddard

• Lucinda Hopkins

• Robin Partello

• Elizabeth Rodd

• Laura Vaillancourt

Expired or renewal denied:

• Michael Atkins

• Dianna Baker

• Lisa Bellanti

• Paul Bennett

• Floreen Keifer-Bishop

• Quentin Blaine

• Barry Bolduc

• George Bortnick

• David Braiterman

• Peter Brigham

• Susan Brown

• Peter Brunette

• Deborah Buxton

• Cindee Carter

• Mark Cavanaugh

• Karen Collman

• Clark Corson

• RoAnne Cronin

• Timothy Cunningham

• Gail Cyr

• Susan Denenberg

• Elaine Dolph

• Daniel Dwyer

• Edmunds Everett

• Michael Finamore

• John Fox

• Patricia Frim

• Christopher Garner

• Matthew Garthwait

• Jill Gaumont

• Kim Gaumont

• Michelle Gosselin-Limire

• Tammy Gosling

• Joan Gross

• Margaret Cunnane Hall

• Marianne Hannagan

• Jeremy Harmon

• Patrick Harrigan

• John Harwood

• Honey Hastings

• Tricia Hayes

• James Hurley

• David Kamen

• Kathy LaRocque

• Marcia Leighninger

• Thomas Mandra

• Jeanette Marino

• Steven Markiewicz

• Elizabeth Maynard

• Barbara McCracken

• Glenn McCracken

• Andrea McCusker

• Robert McKenney

• Norma Micheroni

• Fred Miller

• Kathy Needleman

• Deborah Shepherd

• Douglas Thornton

Someone contacted the GAL board for information and here is their response. 

1^st Request For Information From GAL Board

Hi:
I recently noticed that GAL Douglas Thornton is on a list of "Expired or renewal denied." as for changes through December 1st 2010.  How do I find out information about this?  I would like to know what information is available to me. 

Thanks

1^st Response To Request

Good Morning,

I am not sure what information you are requesting, so I am including the dates of any status changes for Mr. Thornton. I reviewed Mr. Thornton’s file and found that he was originally certified by the Guardian ad Litem Board on March 13, 2006.  His certification expired on March 13, 2009.  He did apply for Guardian ad Litem Certification again in the summer of 2010; however, the board denied his application on September 24, 2010.  He is not a board certified GAL, and has not been board certified since his original expiration date.   

If you are looking for something more specific please let me know and I can try to get that information for you if it is indeed public information.  The reasons for denial are not public information.   

Thank you,

Katherine

GAL Board Secretary

2^nd Request Asking For Information

Thank you for your speedy response.  You answered most of my questions.  Specifically, I am assisting a friend with some post divorce issues.  Doug Thornton was the GAL.  It would be helpful is we could find out why Mr. Thornton's application was denied as there could be some impact on the post divorce issues.  I am a little confused why that information would not be open to the public under the NH Right to Know law and if it is not subject to right to know, how could someone find out?  A petition to the court?  Subpoena?  Your assistance would be greatly appreciated. 

2^nd Response To Request

The reason for denial is exempt from right to know requests pursuant RSA 91-A:3 II(c), and cannot be disclosed.  If he had requested a hearing to challenge the board’s denial of his application, then the information would have become public, but he did not.  I am a secretary, and I am unaware of how you would force the release of exempt information, but I think it may be through the Supreme Court, but you may want to get some legal advice on that.

If you are under the assumption that the reason for denial stems from a complaint about Mr. Thornton as a GAL, I can inform you that all disciplinary decisions regarding GALs are posted to the board’s website under the complaints section.  I do not see that any disciplinary action was ever taken against Mr. Thornton.

If your friend wishes to file a complaint against Mr. Thornton, there is paperwork available on the Board’s website under the complaints section.  However, it should be noted that the board can only handle complaints against certified GALs, so if the time period during which the violations took place was after Mr. Thornton expired, then the complaint would need to be directed to the court, and she would need to contact them as to how to file a complaint.

Thank you

Katherine

GAL Board Secretary

As you can see, the secretary in quite polite in her response.  She notes that the reason for Thornton being denied his certification is not subject to the right to know laws.  Here is a person that has caused a great deal of destruction to two young boys and God knows who else but you can’t find out why his application was denied.  Do you see something wrong with this?  What is the GAL Board covering up?  Thornton created a lot of problems for my divorce, he was biased and negligent in the way he handled the case but I can’t find out why he was denied his certification. 

Someday my children will become adults.  They will someday realize that their father did everything he could do to be in their lives but had his rights taken away by a sick mother that breeds on Parent Alienation as well as her attorney Jaye Rancourt, a negligent GAL Douglas Thornton along with Master Forrest and Judge Arnold. 

Parental Alienation Condoned By Attorney Jaye L. Rancourt, GAL/Attorney Douglas A. Thornton, Marital Master David S. Forrest, and Judge John P. Arnold (Part 1)

I like to think back to a time when all was normal with my children.  As a dad working shift work, time with my boys was always precious.  I did everything I could do to be part of my kid’s lives.  I remember the birthday parties.  Funny, I was always the one running around at the parties playing with the kids.  I loved my children and they loved me.  That has changed after the divorce.

In my 12 years of marriage, I never contemplated divorce until I was at the end of my rope.  My vicious ex-wife began to play games with me a year before I ever contemplated divorce.  I remember the last straw to break the camels back which was a Sunday morning just before going to work.  I was getting dressed and preparing my lunch.  My ex-wife was sitting on the couch and looked at me just before I was heading out to work and stated to me, “You need to choose between your job and your family.”  I told her she needed to grow up.  She repeated her ultimatum.  I told her I will choose.  It will be my children, my job and she wouldn’t be in the picture. 

Games can be nasty.  Especially when dealing with someone that is a sick person.  I was working a police detail one evening.  I received a call from my ex-wife’s mother.  She told me that my sister had called her for advice and that my mother was quite ill (she was an LPN). Later, I received a call from my ex-wife just as I was getting ready to head home.  She was inquiring when I would be home.  I told her shortly.  She told me that she had been waiting up to discuss something with me.  She went on to tell me that my mother was sick.  I told her that I knew as her mother had called me earlier.  That set my ex off.  She told me that she wanted to be the one to tell me this.  I remember her calling her mother the next day and yelling at her for calling me and screaming at her mother telling her she had no business to call me about my mother. 

When I got home sometime after midnight, I went inside my house and I took off my gear and went upstairs.  I went into the kid’s bedroom to check on them and they were sound asleep.  I then went into the master bedroom.  My ex was not in bed.  I found this quite odd since I had spoken with her a short time earlier.  I went into the living room to see if my ex was there and had fallen asleep on the couch.  She was nowhere to be seen. 

I then noticed that the front door was ajar.  We never would leave this door open or unlocked.  I searched the house for her.  I looked outside, in vehicles, upstairs in the unfinished rooms, on the main floor, the basement.  I couldn’t find her anywhere.  I was ready to call dispatch and ask for State Police when I said to myself, let me check again and this time let me be a little more thorough. 

I started with the unfinished upstairs.  I looked in both unfinished rooms.  As I shinned my flashlight in the unfinished closet, I saw my ex curled up in a ball sleeping on the floor.  Feeling that she was intentionally doing this to make a statement (Which my ex told me that was the case at a later date), I went back downstairs and sat on the couch.  A short time later, she came downstairs and walked past me without saying a word.  She had a blanket.  She then went outside to her vehicle and proceeded to sleep in her vehicle for two hours.  I ended up having to sit up all night for fear of what she was going to do next.  I felt that I couldn’t trust her and did not feel safe around her. 

The following day my ex was quite nasty to me.  I asked her what she was acting this way.  She told me that it was because of the way I was treating her and she was making a statement.  I then had to listen to her yell at her mother on the phone about her calling me last night to tell me that my mother was sick.  Now mind you the following evening wasn’t any better.  I was exhausted.  My ex-wife had caused me to stay awake for almost two days straight.  I hit the bed and was out immediately.  A short time later, I awoken and am half asleep.  My ex was grabbing my crotch trying to arouse me.  I said to her, what are you doing?  I haven’t been to sleep in two days.  My ex became outraged and pulled my penis about as hard as she could.  It hurt so bad I jumped out of be and said to her, you’re sick.  I went upstairs to the unfinished room, found a mattress pad to lay on with some blankets and proceeded to get some sleep.  That was the last time I would sleep in the same bed with her.  I actually had to begin sleeping in the unfinished room to get away from my ex.  I had to barricade the door at night for fear of what she would do.  Subsequently I decided to file for divorce. 

It was around this time that I started to become aware of the other games being played by my ex.  My brother called me a few times out of the clear blue to see how I was doing. He finally told me that my ex had called him and was concerned about me.  To be exact, she told my brother I was acting weird and had a “Chemical Imbalance.”  My ex even called my boss and wanted to meet with him at his house.  She tried to pull the same thing on him about the chemical imbalance. 

As time went on, my ex began making accusations that I was having multiple affairs.  Due to the nature of my job, I worked days, nights, weekends, etc.  It was not uncommon to get called into work as I was on call 24/7.  Her paranoia seemed to fuel her sickness.  The thing is I could always account for my time.  I was always at home, work, or with my family. 

Have you ever been threatened by your ex and told that you will never see your kids again?  Well I have.  Several times my ex went so far as to deny me the right to be with my kids while we were married and living together.  She would leave the house and look right at me with an evil grin ad tell me I would never see my children again. 

I recall during marriage counseling, my ex told the counselor that she was going to move out of state and take the kids away from me so that I would never see them again.  The counselor had to her that she couldn’t do that since I had parental rights. 

One day I received a call from a friend of mine that lives two hours away.  We had known each other for 30 years.  He said to me he had been thinking about me and thought we should get together for dinner somewhere in the middle.  I made plans to meet him one night in Amherst NH at Longhorn.  My ex was fully aware of my plans as I had told her where I was going and who I was meeting.  As a matter of fact she thought it was a good idea for me to see my friend and so much that my sixth sense kicked in.  I knew it was a set up. 

I met with my friend at Longhorn.  We ordered dinner.  Right after we ordered, I said to my friend, “So what did she tell you?”  He asked me what I was talking about.  I told my friend I had known him for nearly thirty years and knew that he was a poor liar.  My friend then told me, my ex had called him and stated that she was concerned about me.  Here goes the same old chemical balance story again.  She called my friends, my family, her family and my boss.  When this didn’t work, she then started telling everyone I was having an affair. 

I went onto explain to my friend that my ex was having issues.  I told him that I couldn’t deal with her anymore and explained how she was truly out of control.  She was spying on me and going through my personal belongings and checking up on me wherever I went.  I told him how every time she called me and checked up on me I was always where I told her I was going to be. 

Halfway into dinner, my friend’s daughter called him on his cell phone.  She told my friend that the phone just rang and she noticed the number was my land based phone number so she didn’t answer it as she knew that my ex and me had been having problems (Amazing that this teenaged girl knew of these problems since I never discussed them with her or my friend which leaves only one way she could have know which was by my ex communicating with my friend). 

After my friend hung up with his daughter, his phone rang again.  It was my ex calling.  Now mind you, I carried two cells phones at this time.  One phone belonged to my employer and one phone was my personal phone.  My ex had both phone numbers.    Neither of these two phones was called in an attempt to reach me.  My friend answered his phone my ex stated that she was looking for me and didn’t know if he had seen me.  My friend said I was right here with him.  He handed me his phone so I could talk to my ex. 

My ex stated that she had something going on at work and she didn’t want to call and disturb me and that was why she called my friend.  However since I was with him she was all set.  After I hung up the phone, my friend looked at me with disbelief.  He could not believe what just happened in front of his eyes.  I remember telling my friend see what I mean.  I can’t go anywhere without her checking on me.  She is sick. 

Getting home was no better.  When I got home, my ex met me at the basement door.  She was acting weird.  I asked her why she felt compelled to always check up on me.  She said that she had been talking to a friend and his wife was out so she thought the two of us were together having an affair (Incidentally these false and persistent accusations caused this other couples marriage to break up).  I was upset with my ex as our marriage counselor made us both agree to stop talking with this other couple and all of our friends and family while we were in counseling when my ex accused me of having an affair with this other person in front of the counselor.  If you had asked me, I think it was the other way around.  All summer long while I was at work, my ex spent numerous hours stopping by my friend’s place of business while his wife was at work (He worked alone). 

Oh, the ironic thing.  Guess who gave my ex the idea indirectly that I was having an affair?  My friend’s wife did.  It seems my ex was talking with my friend’s wife.  She was expressing that we were having issues.  My ex went onto tell my friend’s wife that I received calls at all hours of the night, I was always late on getting out of work and I quite often had to go into work late at night.  I was a police officer and supervisor in a small town.  That was my job.  My time was always accounted for through dispatch and town records.  However, my friend’s wife said to my ex, what do you mean by this?  Are you implying he is having an affair? 

My ex used a lot of this information to her advantage during the divorce proceeding.  She knew my weakness was my children and Jaye Rancourt made this the big contention of the divorce.  Attorney Jaye Rancourt and GAL Doug Thornton then began the process of painting me out to be a terrible father that thought of himself first and his kids last. 

Doug Thornton put a lot of weight to what my ex and her friends had to say about me.  I was accused by one on my ex-wife’s friends of not participating in activities with my kids.  In specific, I use to go to cub scouts for my oldest son once a week after school.  I was seldom absent.  While there I worked with the kids and assisted the pack leader.  Once, my ex’s friend was attending a meeting with her son.  She was seldom there.  I received a phone call and had to step out in the hallway to take it.  She told Thornton that I was seldom at the meetings and that when I was I was always on the phone.  Maybe Thornton should have talked to the scout leader.  He would have found out that I was seldom absent and that it was rare for me to pardon myself from time with the pack and I would only do so when other pending responsibilities could not be ignored such as an important phone call from work.  I was so dedicated to my son attending cub scouts that I had to go there in my police uniform many times because I didn’t want to take the time to change as I didn’t want to be late.  Thornton put weight to these lies, Rancourt capitalized on these lies and Forrest was so stupefied that he couldn’t see himself through the trees (You know the Forest through the trees).  These people are truly evil. 

Another issue of contention capitalized by my ex was the Pinewood Derby.  My ex made a scene with me and was truly out of control.  She and Attorney Jaye Rancourt blamed me for being the one to make a scene.  GAL Doug Thornton went along with what they said and conveyed this to Master Forrest.  Master Forrest used this against me.  I had a written statement from the pack leader that my ex was the one out of control and I at all times acted appropriately.  Even when the pack leader testified that my ex was out of control Forrest refused to hear it.  Again, these people are truly evil.  If you are a man and you want to get a fair hearing on a divorce and custody, don’t do it in front of these people and if you do you may just want to bend over and you know what. 

And how about the joyful time of Christmas that comes each year?  I was scheduled to work Christmas day.  I managed to get someone to swap shifts with me.  My kids at the time were 8 and 4 years old.  I worked it out so that I worked overnight while my kids were asleep and I would be home prior to them waking up and be able to spend Christmas day with them.  Being a responsible dad, I told my kids that I had to work.  I would head to work after they went to bed and I would be home by the time they awoke.  I told them this so that they knew if they awoke in the night that my roommate would be there to take care of them.  For all practicable purposes I probably didn’t have to tell them but I was concerned that if they woke in the middle of the night and I wasn’t there they would be scared.  This worked great.  I got home an hour before the kids woke and had a great Christmas morning and I spend a great day with the kids.  Don’t you know that my ex complained to Doug Thornton who decided that I was selfish by not thinking of the kids and letting them be with their mother when I wasn’t around for Christmas Day.  Maybe Doug Thornton should have talked to some of my friends or family and found out the truth which was I spent Christmas day with my kids.  When I questioned Thornton about not speaking to my family and friends, his response was he doesn’t find it useful to speak to family members as he doesn’t give any weight to what they have to say. 

Do you think as a GAL Thornton should have spoken with the Cub Scout leader to see who was telling the truth and who was lying?  Do you think that Thornton should have questioned me and my roommate about Christmas instead of making the assumption that I wasn’t around and the kids should have spent Christmas day with their mother and by me denying them the day with their mother I wasn’t thinking of the kids?  Oh, did I mention that by the decree I had the kids for Christmas day. 

I could go on about these stories but this would be like writing War and Peace.  The important thing for anyone to understand is no matter how truthful you are.  No matter how kind you are.  No matter how honest you are.  Know matter how right you are, if you go in front of these people, you will not be believed and you will be penalized if you’re a man and a non-custodial parent.  Even when you provide physical evidence, you will not be believed.  Expect the worst.  Expect that if you have kids involved, their lives will be screwed up because of the methods of Parental Alienation allowed to be used by litigants.  Master David Forrest and Judge John Arnold refuse to deal with these types of issues and should be removed from the bench.  I think I would have been much better if I just walked away from my family instead of trying to be responsible and do the right thing.  I essentially was punished by Forrest and Arnold for doing the right thing. 

I fought to have 50/50 custody of my children.  Instead, David Forrest and John Arnold at the request of Jaye Rancourt gave me the right to see my kids every other weekend.  Oh, the kicker of this whole thing.  Rancourt and Forrest knew that I worked every Sunday and Rancourt made sure there was a clause in there that if I could not watch my kids for more then 4 hours during visitation, I had to return them to my ex so essentially on Sunday’s I would have had to wake my kids up by 5am so that I could drop them off to their mother and then pick them up at three in the afternoon to just drop them off a few hours later in the evening.  Essentially what Forrest and Arnold did was to allow me to only see my kids two days a month.  That’s 24 days a year.  How do you co-parent children with that type of schedule?  I did nothing to deserve being treated this way. 

I was looking for 50/50 custody of the children.  I wanted to have custody exchanges occur on Friday evenings either at the end of school or the end of the work day when the kids got out of childcare so that myself and my ex would have no contact with each other.  Instead, Forrest and Arnold signed off on a plan that would have me and my ex having contact with each other constantly.  When I had parenting time with my children that was near 50/50, the alienation was somewhat tolerable.  I was able to work with my kids and be there for them and counteract everything there mother was doing to warp their young impressionable minds.  It’s not easy.  You have to be patient with the kids and remember it’s not their fault. 

Now, I have been reduced to being a father that is only able to call his kids once a week (I will elaborate on the circumstances of this in a future blog).  When I speak with my kids they are hostile to me.  My oldest son who is 11 years old is very hostile to me.  He continually tells me how he doesn’t love me.  He tells me that I did something wrong.  When I ask him what I did, he can’t tell me.  My 7 year old is slightly less hostile towards me although he listens to his brother and has frequent outburst with me also.  Parental Alienation is a terrible thing.  As long as we have unethical Judges like John P. Arnold, Marital Masters like David S. Forrest, Attorneys like Jaye L. Rancourt and Guardian Ad Litems like Douglas A. Thornton, this problem will continue to fester. 

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Cheshire County Judge John P. Arnold and Marital Master David S. Forrest Fail Surveys On The Courthouse Forum!

It’s pathetic that we have Judge’s and Marital Masters in Cheshire County that rate so poor on surveys.  The NH Judicial system needs a reform.  It’s too bad we can’t vote these people out of office like they do in other states.  

If you go to the Courthouse Forum with the following link:

http://www.courthouseforum.com///forums/directory.php?letter=a

You will be on a page that has Judge John P. Arnold’s score.  Arnold received a D- rating. 

Click on the F tab to go to Forrest.  He rated slightly better with a D+. 

It is no wonder why Cheshire County Superior Court has so many issues when it comes to the marital division.  Please go to the Courthouse Forum and take the survey.