As you may recall from one of my recent posts, while speaking with my eleven year old son recently, he said to me that I wasn't a father to him and that I never really was a father to him. Reading this article made me realize just what is going on in the minds of a child that has been alienated.
As the article states, "PAS is not a situation that can be managed or controlled. An alienated parent is powerless without successful family therapy or court orders designed to repair the parent/child relationship. All this parent can realistically do is reinforce positive messages to the child—“I love you. I’m still your mother/father. I will always be here for you.” The parent should try and remain calm. He or she shouldn’t raise his or her voice or use force."
While I feel that this is sound advice, it comes back to the same problem that many of us alienated parents deal with on a regular basis. We don't have the resources to deal with these issues in court. I personally was tapped out by my ex-wife and her scheming litigation attorney Jaye Rancourt of BCLI. Unethical attorney's like Rancourt will try to make you spend all of your money defending yourself. They are looking to destroy you and break the bank. Once the bank is broken, if you had an attorney, they will leave you since you no longer have any money. Watch out for this. If you go up against Rancourt, this is her method of operation. Hit hard and destroy the defenders ability to fight back. She will do this at the expense of your children. What does this say about Rancourt's ethics as an attorney?
Read the article and let me know what you think.
Parental Alienation Syndrome: What Do You Do When Your Child Stops Seeing You as Mom or Dad?
Children’s Voice Magazine, July/August 2004