Misguided DV Groups Back Discredited Battered Mothers Custody Conference
January 10th, 2011 by Glenn Sacks, MA, Executive DirectorThe Eighth Annual Battered Mothers Custody Conference was held over the weekend in Albany, New York. Several misguided domestic violence advocacy groups, including the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence and the National Network Against Domestic Violence, co-sponsored the conference. Sadly, this is a prime example of a serious problem afflicting most domestic violence organizations, one which tarnishes the often noble work they do—their consistent failure to recognize and acknowledge false abuse accusations.
For years the Conference, which is also co-sponsored by the National Organization for Women of New York State, has promoted a parade of child custody cases which they use to support their claim that “protective parents” frequently are losing in family court because the courts hand child custody to batterers who employ false claims of Parental Alienation. They advocate reforms which will make it easier to deny fathers shared custody or visitation rights based on unsubstantiated abuse claims.
Fathers and Families does not now nor have we ever denied that there are family court litigants who make false accusations of Parental Alienation, just as there are litigants who make false accusations of domestic violence and child sexual abuse. Certainly there are fathers (and mothers) who have alienated their children through inept parenting, narcissism, drug or alcohol problems, or abuse, and who attempt to shift the blame to their exes by falsely claiming Parental Alienation.
Nonetheless, there is no credible evidence that battering, abusive fathers are being awarded child custody, and this is demonstrated by the extreme trouble that proponents of this view have in producing even a handful of credible cases to support their claims. To this date they have produced one—the Joyce Murphy case in San Diego. There are doubtless others, but not many.
Longtime Fathers and Families supporters will remember that the Battered Mothers Custody Conference was the basis for PBS’ 2005 anti-father documentary Breaking the Silence, which portrayed fathers as batterers and child molesters who steal children from their mothers. We led a massive protest against the film, along with the American Coalition for Fathers and Children. Our protest resulted in PBS agreeing to commission a new film to take a fair look at child custody and parental alienation. That film, called Kids & Divorce: For Better or Worse, aired on most PBS affiliates in September of 2006.
We also exposed Sadia Loeliger, one of the central characters in the film, as a fraud. The filmmakers portrayed her as a heroic mom who had lost custody of her daughter to an abusive ex-husband. We publicly revealed extensive documentation showing that Sadia Loeliger had lost custody because overwhelming evidence led a Tulare County, CA Juvenile Court to conclude she had committed multiple acts of child abuse. Breaking the Silence’s producers were forced to publicly apologize to Dr. Scott Loeliger for the film’s defamatory portrayal of his case, and to obliterate it from any future reproductions of the film.
The BMCC was the basis for PBS’ 2005 anti-father documentary Breaking the Silence, which portrayed fathers as batterers and child molesters who steal children from their mothers. We led a massive protest against the film, which resulted in PBS agreeing to commission a new film to take a fair look at child custody and parental alienation.
To read about our protest, click here. To read Dr. Ned Holstein’s detailed analysis of the flaws in the film and the information put forward by the BMCC and other political opponents, click here.Unfortunately, the Battered Mothers Custody Conference has continued to put forth and promote discredited child custody cases. This year’s lineup of speakers and presenters is a veritable Rogue’s Gallery of dishonest litigants and their attorney/advocate enablers.
Do children sometimes get placed with the wrong parent? Of course they do. It happens all the time. What is disturbing to me here is that we have groups that are so one sided. There are male and female abusers. It’s time to take the gender out of the decisions and to look at each situation case by case.
ReplyDeleteHistory shows that quite often children get placed with one parent over the other. Why? Why is it that when both parents are living together they seem to be both qualified and when they separate neither one is any good? In my opinion it’s about the all mighty dollar. Are children are being sold out over money. This has become a multibillion dollar business. The attorneys, GAL’s Judges and Marital Masters are making money at the expense of our children.
During my divorce, it got back to me that my ex-wife was running her mouth telling people that she was going to have child support, alimony and take all of my property from me and I would end up with nothing. She wanted the kids for a paycheck and nothing more. People like this are sick and the system needs to stop rewarding them. If there had been a 50/50 custody arrangement, my ex wouldn’t have been able use the system to prostitute her children as a paycheck.
It’s time to change the system. What everyone fails to realize is that it’s not about the man or the woman. It’s about our children! Take the gender out of it and do the right thing for our children’s sake. Children need equal access to both parents.